Soulmate

 All of us are familiar with the term soulmate. It is an idea that has been passed around forever. The definition of a soulmate is somewhat vague. 

My definition of a soulmate is that, it is someone, who even in your darkest hour, could help you find those silvers of light once again. Someone who could face the horrors of life while standing strong at your side, fighting with you against whatever came. Someone who could make you feel safe no matter what happened, or how dark your day has been. Someone who in the face of fear and danger would stand firmly at your side, fighting through every second of it. 

It sounds wonderful and dreamy right. One doesn't have to be a romantic to hope for a soulmate. No one ever really finds their soulmate, or so they say. Apparently finding your better half is more complicated than setting a pole vault record. It shouldn't be that hard right, finding your destined mate. So here's where I think that, maybe we have been looking at it all wrong. Maybe we have been looking for something that has been with us all along. I don't think it's as complicated and mysterious as The Tamam Shud Case.

I believe we are our own soulmate. BOOM! Surprising right... I mean just think about it.

We are all we need. If we learn to depend on ourselves and take care of ourselves, we don't need another human being. We wouldn't have to wait around for another human being to fill the gaping hole we feel in our heart. Our lives will be more fulfilling and peaceful. And even if we find somebody else to live with, there's a higher chance of that relationship working. When you learn to work through your problems and struggles, you and your partner can survive tragedy instead of turning on each other and crumbling. 

Another individual can only help you when you explain your problems to them. But explaining your feelings to someone when you can't even explain them to yourselves is hard. It gets even harder when you try to seek answers from them. You will be so caught up in finding out who to point the finger at, that you will lose the will to heal. The entire process that was meant to help you cope would have just made it worse.

But what if, for a second, instead of looking for a helping hand you turn to yourself. What if you look for answers yourself? What if your heart yearned for yourself, and you pick yourself up? The courage and conviction it takes to do that will make you see yourself in a whole different light. All doubts and insecurities you ever had will get washed away. You will be a stronger version of yourself. Isn't that the greatest gift you can give yourself?

Why look for the moon, when you have a star?

Be your own soulmate! 

Be your own pillar!

With all the love in the world

Yours truly,

Butterfly