SURVIVAL

Bad things happen to everyone. It's just the way of life. There is nothing anyone can do to avoid that. 

But who you are as an individual, is determined by how you choose to process and handle those atrocities. 

Usually in the face of an adversity, you are given two options: you can either cry over it or get over it. I prefer a third option. I whine and cry over it while getting back up. This gets all the sadness out of my system while I try to find a solution to my problem. If you let every little thing break you in life, there will be no life for you to enjoy. Shit happens - so what? It's not like your life was a picnic before that. There is nothing you cannot get over or fix in life. Without a solution, there is no problem. So stop beating yourself down for every bad thing that happens to you. 

Now, sometimes we are unable to get over some things mostly because we feel insecure and lost. In such a situation it becomes necessary to understand oneself. Learn to forgive yourself for your shortcomings and embrace yourself. 

It's okay if you haven't achieved what you had set out for. It's okay if you feel like you have disappointed yourself or the people around you. It's okay if you feel like a failure. During those times you need to understand that you are amazing the way you are.

The people in your age group who did not experience life altering trauma had an advantage over you. Your brain was focused on surviving while they were free to develop and grow. You might feel like you are behind but it's because you were doing your best to survive. Never compare your accomplishments to others.

Every small task you accomplish is your achievement. Every book you read, a new friend you make or a dish you cook, is your achievement. Be proud of those small things in life. Those are what counts. They make you the wonderful person that you are.

Anybody can brag about awards and jobs. But it takes a lot of courage and self-love to appreciate your small victories and to be happy with them. It takes a lot of failed tests, to make that one rocket that can take you to Mars. 

Every failure of yours is a lesson you learnt. It's a risk you took. Be proud of it, instead of complaining that you failed.

Be proud of yourself!

Love yourself!

Let go of all that is holding you back. You don't owe anybody your happiness.

With all the love in the world

Yours truly,

Butterfly

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